Future

I had high hopes today. I was going to tackle chores that I have procrastinated doing over the last month that I’ve been swallowed by grief. What happened instead? Every emotion of the last month finally exploded outward and the argument we have tried to avoid finally happened.

Our marriage is not perfect. Fairly early on, we discovered our differences. We coped with those things by diving into games, fantasy stories, and screens. We went on vacations sporadically, but for the most part, we became hermits. When we weren’t working at jobs that sucked our joy from us, we were lost in movies and games and enjoying our pets (animals and otherwise).

Over lots of trial and error and earning his Bachelor’s degree. My husband found his career in IT. He loves it and has found a job that he is truly proud of.

My journey was much longer and in the process, I found a career in customer service that brought short-term joy and knowledge of many different industries and products.

We became parents.

I unlearned destructive beliefs and achieved things I never thought I could. I learned and practice healthier habits. I earned my degree. I got a job at my dream organization and am in a department where I believe I can meet my career aspirations.

We have spent time working on ourselves and we are both generally happy with the people we have become. Now, is the season that we work on our relationship so that we thrive in our second quarter century.

What that looks like is for the two of us to discover. This is what we are good at. We wouldn’t have survived 25 years together if we didn’t know how to figure out what works for us.