When we were foster parents previously visits with the birth family were usually pretty intense. Kids always struggle with a myriad of feelings when seeing their parents and then having to leave with me after just a few hours. It also is interesting for me to interact in person with birth parents. During those first years as a foster parent, I was not driving so whenever possible I was a true partner with the birth family because they would provide transportation for all of us for appointments. That arrangement was very awkward a few times.
This time, I drive. The distance and separation is nice. With this placement the relationship with the birth mother is interesting. So, I am enjoying the fact that I have the ability to create a hard line boundary. It is helping the kids too because they know that they have a place to relax and just be when it’s all over.
So far the visits are going pretty well. Birth mom and dads know that we are on their side. We want whatever is best for the kids. And, we are prepared to say goodbye at any moment. Even though I know this part, I am also very glad that I won’t have to say goodbye for a bit yet.
These kids are a balm to my heart after everything with my son and granddaughter. I love being a mom and my husband loves spending time with the kids and being able to be a dad. We are adding to our family of the heart and we are more than ready to add kids through adoption.
Indomitable Bellatrix 